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The Paradox of Shame – Part I
Shame has been a constant theme throughout my healing, but I have found it to be really dominant as I have begun to risk more and live more fully. When I was recovering, I finally realized how ruled I...
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How do I fill the void?
Dpblusee left the following question in response to the “Therapy isn’t enough” post: I don’t believe I have ever felt true, authentic love in my life until it was evoked in my therapy (which, for me,...
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Memorable Quotes
Had another very intense session with BN today who remains, thank heaven, completely unflappable. I’m starting to feel this insane impulse to just keep stepping up my behavior to find the breaking...
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Happy 1st Birthday Tales
It has been a very long, sucky, painful day, full of misunderstandings and hurts, some caused by me, to my regret and some inflicted on me. (Yay!! While I was working on this, someone did an amazing...
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I hate hearing NO
Hopefully, later I’ll write a longer, more detailed post on my session yesterday as a lot of really good work got done and important things happened, but right now, I really don’t care. All the...
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The Whole Story of the No
In my post I HATE hearing no, I talked about BN saying no to something I asked for but didn’t go into too many details. Some of it was lack of time, but I suspect, gentle readers, that some of it was...
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It’s still no, but still helpful
I am back with the promised update on my last session with BN. (For background, see my previous post The Whole Story of the No.) It was an intense, difficult session but a very productive one and I...
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Sorting the Past
In the comments after my last post, It’s still no, but still helpful, a number of questions were asked that I felt needed a longer answer than I would want to put in a comment and since they were all...
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What I missed
Since I’ve been on the topic of how we work through our grief for that which we did not have, I thought I would share some particulars losses I ran into and what was underneath them. As I’ve worked my...
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Why keep going back?
***Trigger warning: Religious content, I talk about my Christian faith in pretty specific terms late in the post. A reader emailed to ask me a question whose answer I thought would make a good topic...
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What’s a therapist to do?
Alex asked the question below over on the Ask AG page and I am going to offer my take on it. I am wondering if you have any insight on a psychotherapist’s role when a patient is demonstrating...
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Some Handy Links
Greetings all, just a quick post to provide some useful information. I am working on a post to talk about how I am actually doing but its slow going. Promise I’ll get there eventually. But in the...
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Time to Run: The Power of the Amygdala
A member on the psychcafe forum, Closed Doors (CD), started a discussion about what dependency on your therapist means. In the course of the discussion, I ended up writing a formula for what happens...
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Disruption and Rage Part I
TW*** CSA, rage and really bad language Well, I think I have hidden in my cave long enough and its time to poke my head out and talk about what is going on with me. I am most of the way through a four...
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Disruption and Rage Part II
TW*** CSA, rage and really bad language For the first part, see Disruption and Rage Part I. NOTE: I have really appreciated everyone reading and all the supportive comments. I am planning on replying...
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Backfire
We got back today after dropping my younger daughter off at college. I am finishing up a 12 day break from work that was a complete whirlwind. I had a nerve block, did a three-day trip to NYC, a block...
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The Repair Part I
I am back with the promised account of my last session. This post is the first of two (it got REALLY long). It was a very long, very intense session, so I’ll do my best to describe what happened. As in...
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The Repair Part II
This is the second part of a two-part series, for the first part see The Repair Part I. I ended the last post having just done a bag up job of expressing my anger at BN. I told him that it had felt...
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Therapist’s Self-Disclosure
Ran across a great article on the web by a therapist who specializes in training other therapist’s about self-disclosure in therapy and thought other people might find it interesting also: Think Before...
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Reliving the Shame
I just had a deep insight into shame (which I suspect is going to sound D’oh when I say it) that I want to write down before I forget. I have been doing some rather intense work in therapy lately,...
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